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luthvian: acarback: aestheticised: aspiringdoctors: beben-ele...

Tue, 18 Jun 2013 12:45:37 -0400

acarback:

aestheticised:

aspiringdoctors:

beben-eleben:

A Daddy’s Letter to His Little Girl (About Her Future Husband)

Dear Cutie-Pie,

Recently, your mother and I were searching for an answer on Google. Halfway through entering the question, Google returned a list of the most popular searches in the world. Perched at the top of the list was “How to keep him interested.”

It startled me. I scanned several of the countless articles about how to be sexy and sexual, when to bring him a beer versus a sandwich, and the ways to make him feel smart and superior.

And I got angry.

Little One, it is not, has never been, and never will be your job to “keep him interested.”

Little One, your only task is to know deeply in your soul—in that unshakeable place that isn’t rattled by rejection and loss and ego—that you are worthy of interest. (If you can remember that everyone else is worthy of interest also, the battle of your life will be mostly won. But that is a letter for another day.)

If you can trust your worth in this way, you will be attractive in the most important sense of the word: you will attract a boy who is both capable of interest and who wants to spend his one life investing all of his interest in you.

Little One, I want to tell you about the boy who doesn’t need to be kept interested, because he knows you are interesting:

I don’t care if he puts his elbows on the dinner table—as long as he puts his eyes on the way your nose scrunches when you smile. And then can’t stop looking.

I don’t care if he can’t play a bit of golf with me—as long as he can play with the children you give him and revel in all the glorious and frustrating ways they are just like you.

I don’t care if he doesn’t follow his wallet—as long as he follows his heart and it always leads him back to you.

I don’t care if he is strong—as long as he gives you the space to exercise the strength that is in your heart.

I couldn’t care less how he votes—as long as he wakes up every morning and daily elects you to a place of honor in your home and a place of reverence in his heart.

I don’t care about the color of his skin—as long as he paints the canvas of your lives with brushstrokes of patience, and sacrifice, and vulnerability, and tenderness.

I don’t care if he was raised in this religion or that religion or no religion—as long as he was raised to value the sacred and to know every moment of life, and every moment of life with you, is deeply sacred.

In the end, Little One, if you stumble across a man like that and he and I have nothing else in common, we will have the most important thing in common:

You.

Because in the end, Little One, the only thing you should have to do to “keep him interested” is to be you.

Your eternally interested guy,

Daddy

My Dad has said almost these exact same things to me and my little sister since we were very small.

It’s so easy to forget in the sea of modern culture that is constantly thrown at me from grocery story checkout line magazine racks and internet ads and TV shows and mindless pop song lyrics.

Ladies (and gentlemen): Read this. Take it to heart.

This made me cry

This is beautiful. Swap out “guy” for “partner” and it’s perfect. I don’t care who my daughter marries so long as they are loved and respected like that.

This was hard to read - I’ve never felt like “me” is someone worthy of interest. I know I’m worthy of my happiness, but I’ve never really felt like I’m also naturally worthy of someone else’s happiness and attention and love.

I’ve been letting down my walls, and the person that matters most still just smiles and continues on loving me even though I’m not hiding the parts of me that are different. Were I religious, I’d say it’s a blessing.

I’m not yet at the stage where I take it in stride, and maybe I never want to be there. Sometimes I just take a step back, look at my life, and am blown away by this love and acceptance. By the truth that I can be myself and it’s not a bad thing.

girlsgetbusyzine: writeswrongs: cumaeansibyl: coffeeandconlang...

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 20:15:00 -0400

girlsgetbusyzine:

writeswrongs:

cumaeansibyl:

coffeeandconlangs:

Unnecessary “fillers” in our speech. I’d rather have “like” than up-talking, though (if we had to choose one, that is). Ewwww, up-talking. Then again, a combination of the two would render me homicidal maniac.

Like, did you ever notice? That, like, the speech patterns people, like, think are stupid? Are, like, commonly associated with, like, women?

And, like, there’s this thing? Where, like, women aren’t supposed to be, like, assertive? So they, like, qualify their speech? Because, like, we’re not supposed to, like, stand by our opinions?

1) humiliate women so they don’t feel qualified to speak authoritatively about anything

2) humiliate women for speaking in such a way that reflects how you treat her

3) laugh, you are superior because you don’t use words like “like.” It isn’t as if being a huge stupid asshole has ever made you worse than a woman who speaks with verbal tics.

letwesterosburn: stayambitious: pitchforkreviews: THIS HUSKY...

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 18:12:40 -0400

letwesterosburn:

stayambitious:

pitchforkreviews:

THIS HUSKY HEARS THE BABY CRYING SO IT LULLS IT OH MY GOD I’M SERIOUSLY ABOUT TO START CRYING

* i sing you the song of my people, tiny human*

Dogs are awesome

discoveringfeminism: deforest: Joan Crawford in Possessed...

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 18:02:41 -0400

discoveringfeminism:

deforest:

_{Joan Crawford in Possessed (1931)}

82 years later and it’s still relevant

Something is wrong here

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 18:01:56 -0400

men get into something not aimed at their gender: get special titles like "brony." recognition by creators. heralded for defying gender appeal. get documentary.
women get into something not aimed at their gender: not real fans. probably secret friend zone warriors deadset on erasing men from the human race. get insulting demeaning memes and sexual harassment.

Photo

Sun, 16 Jun 2013 00:35:46 -0400

loreliaod: I promised we’d do a giveaway at 200 followers and...

Fri, 14 Jun 2013 22:40:35 -0400

loreliaod:

I promised we’d do a giveaway at 200 followers and here we are! So let’s do this!

Rules:

-You must be following me, without you guys I wouldn’t have lasted on tumblr this long.

-Reblog and/or like this post. You get one reblog, one like and each counts as one entry. I don’t want to spam dashes too much.

-Entries will be counted up until June 21st at 11:59 PM.

-After that I’ll draw winners and get in touch with them. You guys may want to check back in case tumblr starts eating asks again.

-If I don’t hear from winners after 24 hours, I’ll draw someone else.

Prizes:

-One winners will receive a full body detailed sketch of their choice.

Sample 1

-One winner will receive a full body graphic ink drawing of their choice.

Sample 2

-One winner will receive a full body full color drawing of their choice.

Sample 3

I reserve the right to reject anything insanely complicated and I will not do NSFW.

Feel free to hit my ask box with any questions.

Thank you :D

thefrogman: Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal by Zach Wiener...

Thu, 13 Jun 2013 18:06:21 -0400

thefrogman:

Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal by Zach Wiener [website]

[h/t: pleatedjeans]

minimumsymmetry: pleatedjeans: damn it not again. via this...

Thu, 13 Jun 2013 18:03:37 -0400

minimumsymmetry:

pleatedjeans:

damn it not again. via

this is like, my sense of humor, distilled. PERFECT

casualbutthole: melkordgraphics: This pretty much sums it...

Wed, 12 Jun 2013 10:54:46 -0400

casualbutthole:

melkordgraphics:

This pretty much sums it up.

Source: Uknown

THANK YOU THIS IS SO FUCKING IMPORTANT JESUS

femfreq: A great webcomic by @sciencecomic about harassment in...

Wed, 12 Jun 2013 10:54:21 -0400

femfreq:

A great webcomic by @sciencecomic about harassment in gaming culture. Be sure to click through the link to read the accompanying article that discusses Tropes vs Women in Video Games, Jennifer Hepler, Felicia Day and Aisha Tyler.

In this mysteriously leaked DVD commentary for Season 4 of...

Mon, 10 Jun 2013 16:21:54 -0400

In this mysteriously leaked DVD commentary for Season 4 of “Game Of Thrones,” author George R.R. Martin drops some MASSIVE plot bombshells. (x)

Originally from:...

Mon, 10 Jun 2013 16:14:40 -0400

Originally from: http://blogues.lapresse.ca/laporte/2013/06/09/et-le-beurre-de-peanut-qui-sen-mele/

WHO thought this new label was a good idea? Look at them. LOOK INTO THEIR EYES. Sinister peanut butter bears.

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Sat, 08 Jun 2013 21:30:02 -0400

He still looks so hopeful. “I can make this work, I can do...

Fri, 07 Jun 2013 16:10:46 -0400

He still looks so hopeful. “I can make this work, I can do this, I got this shit guys.”

fritokal: My mum thinks it should’ve been ‘Bendy dick cum on...

Fri, 07 Jun 2013 00:15:46 -0400

fritokal:

My mum thinks it should’ve been ‘Bendy dick cum on my back’.

And this is why I have insta-scorn on the SJW’s on tumblr who think it’s super clever to make fun of his name.

unicorn-meat-is-too-mainstream: photographer Yume Cyan has been...

Thu, 06 Jun 2013 12:37:21 -0400

unicorn-meat-is-too-mainstream:

photographer Yume Cyan has been shooting some magical long exposure photographs of fireflies in a forested area around Nagoya City, Japan. By keeping the camera’s shutter open at a low aperture Cyan captures every bioluminescent flash of each insect resulting in dotted light trails that criss-cross the frame.

typewriterchan: moonlight69: bonparisien: linguisticsyall: ro...

Wed, 05 Jun 2013 01:22:34 -0400

typewriterchan:

moonlight69:

bonparisien:

linguisticsyall:

romancingthelanguages:

“Shit It’s raining”

I can’t think of a better thing to put on an umbrella.

would buy this

I need this. Someone show me where to throw my money to obtain this.

SHUT UP AND TAKE MY MONEY.

http://www.raindropsto.com/merde-il-pleut-umbrella

Right here!

"To all those who don’t think the rape joke was a problem, or rape jokes are a problem. I get it,..."

Tue, 04 Jun 2013 22:23:40 -0400

“

To all those who don’t think the rape joke was a problem, or rape jokes are a problem.

I get it, you’re a decent guy. I can even believe it. You’ve never raped anybody. You would NEVER rape anybody. You’re upset that all these feminists are trying to accuse you of doing something or connect you to doing something that, as far as you’re concerned, you’ve never done and would never condone.

And they’ve told you about triggers, and PTSD, and how one in six women is a survivor, and you get it. You do. But you can’t let every time someone gets all upset get in the way of you having a good time, right?

So fine. If all those arguments aren’t going anything for you, let me tell you this. And I tell you this because I genuinely believe you mean it when you say you don’t want to hurt anybody, and you don’t see the harm, and that it’s important to you to do your best to be a decent and good person. And I genuinely believe you when you say you would never associate with a rapist and you think rape really is a very bad thing.

Because this is why I refuse to take rape jokes sitting down-

6% of college age men, slightly over 1 in 20, will admit to raping someone in anonymous surveys, as long as the word “rape” isn’t used in the description of the act.

6% of Penny Arcade’s target demographic will admit to actually being rapists when asked.

A lot of people accuse feminists of thinking that all men are rapists. That’s not true. But do you know who think all men are rapists?

Rapists do.

They really do. In psychological study, the profiling, the studies, it comes out again and again.

Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.

If one in twenty guys is a real and true rapist, and you have any amount of social activity with other guys like yourself, really cool guy, then it is almost a statistical certainty that one time hanging out with friends and their friends, playing Halo with a bunch of guys online, in a WoW guild, or elsewhere, you were talking to a rapist. Not your fault. You can’t tell a rapist apart any better than anyone else can. It’s not like they announce themselves.

But, here’s the thing. It’s very likely that in some of these interactions with these guys, at some point or another someone told a rape joke. You, decent guy that you are, understood that they didn’t mean it, and it was just a joke. And so you laughed.

And, decent guy who would never condone rape, who would step in and stop rape if he saw it, who understands that rape is awful and wrong and bad, when you laughed?

That rapist who was in the group with you, that rapist thought that you were on his side. That rapist knew that you were a rapist like him. And he felt validated, and he felt he was among his comrades.

You. The rapist’s comrade.

And if that doesn’t make you feel sick to your stomach, if that doesn’t make you want to throw up, if that doesn’t disturb you or bother you or make you feel like maybe you should at least consider not participating in that kind of humor anymore…

Well, maybe you aren’t as opposed to rapists as you claim.

”

- Time-Machine (via a comment at shakesville.com)

Single greatest argument about this I have ever heard.

(via justintheallan)

pileofmonkeys: lemonsweetie: Let me tell you a thing, about an...

Wed, 29 May 2013 18:42:19 -0400

pileofmonkeys:

lemonsweetie:

Let me tell you a thing, about an amazing man named Patrick Stewart

I went to Comicpalooza this weekend and I was full of nervous energy as I was standing in line to ask Sir Patrick Stewart a question at his panel. I first had to thank him for a speech he had given at amnesty international about domestic violence towards women . I had only seen it a few months ago but I was still dealing with my own personal experience with a similar issue, and I didn’t know what to call it. After seeing Patrick talk so personally about it I finally was able to correctly call it abuse, in my case sexual abuse that was going to quickly turn into physical abuse as well. I didn’t feel guilty or disgusting anymore. I finally didn’t feel responsible for the abuse that was put upon me. I was finally able to start my healing process and to put that part of my life behind me.

After thanking him I asked him “Besides acting, what are you most proud of that you have done in you life (that you are willing to share with us)?”. Sir Patrick told us about how he couldn’t protect his mother from abuse in his household growing up and so in her name works with an organization called Refuge for safe houses for women and children to escape from abusive house holds. Sir Patrick Stewart learned only last year that his father had actually been suffering from PTSD after he returned from the military and was never properly treated. In his father’s name he works with an organization called Combat Stress to help those soldiers who are suffering from PTSD.

They were about to move onto the next question when Sir Patrick looked at me and asked me “My Dear, are you okay?” I said yes, and that I was finally able to move on from that part of my life. He then passionately said that it is never the woman’s fault in domestic violence, and how wrong to think that it ever is. That it is in the power of men to stop violence towards women. The moderator then asked “Do you want a hug?”

Sir Patrick didn’t even hesitate, he smiled, hopped off the stage and came over to embrace me in a hug. Which he held me there for a long while. He told me “You never have to go through that again, you’re safe now.” I couldn’t stop thanking him. His embrace was so warm and genuine. It was two people, two strangers, supporting and giving love. And when we pulled away he looked strait in my eyes, like he was promising that. He told me to take care. And I will.

Sir Patrick Stewart is an absolute role model for men. He is an amazing man and was so kind and full of heart. I want to let everyone know to please find help if you are in a violent or abusive house hold or relationship. There are organizations and people ready to help. I had countless people after the panel thanking me for sharing the story and asking him those questions. Many said they went through similar things. You are not alone.

X

^ Here is the video of my question to Sir Patrick Stewart

Perfect human being.